Originally Posted by Dagferi
The reasons why in my opinion so many poly relationship fail can be summed up by "too many cooks spoil the soup."
Too many have people meddling in relationships that are not their own. My husband has no say what so ever in my relationship with Murf. Just like Murf has no say in what goes on between Butch and I.
Dagferi... yes I agree totally.
Our quad came up with a rule from the beginning which we still use religiously... If anyone has a problem which involves the group they are required to SPEAK UP! It sounds simple but its not always easy to upset the apple cart and say something. Problems happened when we could tell someone was having a hard time and spent hours amongst ourselves speculating what the problem may be... which always tends to manufacture other problems... yes, very confusing!