Originally Posted by london
I didn't like the implication that vetos and the like are what makes this poly thing work.
I didn't read it that way. The quad indicated that a veto agreement was THEIR setup, but I didn't see it generalised to all poly relationships.
The counsellor was quoted as saying:
"You can live in a monogamous institution and you can negotiate monotony, or you can live in a non-monogamous choice and negotiate jealousy. Pick your evil.
"If you are opening it up you have to contend with the fact that you're not the only one, and if you are not opening it up then you have to contend with the fact that your partner is the only one."
which I feel was a reasonable thing to say as a general poly observation. That didn't imply a veto I think.