I do not play the whole primary secondary BS game.
Murf means just as much to me as my husband. The only persons who come above him are the kids and that is just for now. When they are old enough to care for themselves then they will handle their own business.
I take care of BOTH Murf and Butch when they are sick. I help Murf with important life decisions as I do Butch. We attend important events together weddings, funeral, kid events, holidays and etc. I make sure he has home cooked meals just as Butch does.. I do yard work at both homes, clean, and etc.
We consult each other on life.. I can have just as much of a future with him as my husband. I can do forever with both. Just because he doesn't have a piece of paper from the government doesn't mean he is any less important in my life.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.