Natja - I appreciate the feedback and can see your point. I believe what I meant to say is that I'm not uber skilled in how to meet people. When I'm in NYC or some other metro type place I generally have a good idea where to go but that isn't the case around here.
In regards to the "what" I'm looking for: it isn't a sex buddy. It would be great if that was part of the relationship but certainly not the primary focus. For instance I love to do stuff outdoors and would be thrilled to have someone join me. If the evening ended romantically - awesome - if not at least I got to share my day with a special someone.
Hopefully that clarifies it a bit.