If it happens it happens is, in my opinion, the right attitude to dating in general. I don't know anyone in any long lasting successful relationship who got there by forcing it or chasing an ideal of some kind. The exception is people who are married as a business transaction more than romantic... i.e. married for the sake of being married and don't expect "love."
“As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.” —bisexualbaker