Originally Posted by AlbertaBea
My boyfriend's wife has a lot of hostility and prejudice towards me. Tommy, our shared partner, doesn't talk to us about each other. She and I only interact at parties. We used to try and communicate via text and email, only to find it created more problems. There's still tension but we've set new boundaries and everyone is in an okay place now.
My best advice is to keep it superficial. If you don't like this person, don't force yourself to for your partners sake. Let their relationship be separate from yours and don't stir the pot unnecessarily.
How do you manage this? Does he not bring her up, at all? My boyfriend and I are trying to negotiate/work around how much or what we discuss about his spouse, and perhaps i need to just say "not at all" but feel that could be unfair to him