Originally Posted by idealist
I would like to know more about that if you are willing to share.
The couple started off with a clear understanding that it was an open relationship. It morphed into them being primaries for each other, with lots of secondaries.
At some point one of them started to get 'guidance' about people they were supposed to have relationships with. Past lives, twin souls, soul mates, you name it. All fine and good until that meant having affairs with others (i.e. facilitating cheating).
When challenged the response was 'it was just meant to be. All my actions are OK as long as they come from love'. 'Open to feedback' was no longer part of the equation since decisions based on 'love' were not open for discussion.
The other one finally had enough of it.
I guess the lesson is, if you're going to live your life based on 'guidance', make sure that all of your partners know this in advance and that they are OK with unilateral actions you may take based on dreams you had that night etc. I'm not saying it's not a way to live, just that it can be pretty tough on everyone else.