I would feel shitty, granted. It is part of why I am doing my best to be flexible with him, and give him the chance to integrate the information.
What exactly does flexible mean in this.
Doesn't integrate mean accept the new reality.
Early in the tread you talked about the reasons you both want to stay together ...responsibilities, family, etc ...it wasnt til this last post you talked about love.
Have you discussed familial love verses passionate love. Loving someone vs..being in love.
You mentioned your kids ...how old are they and what do they know....and or what do you plan to tell them?
I think you made a good decision on going to therapy...I wish you both luck in that process.