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Old 08-13-2013, 05:04 AM
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Originally Posted by InsaneMystic View Post
Two ways around it off the top of my head (which, indeed, is mine ) :

"XYZ and I are friends/partners/whatevs, and he/she/they..."
"XYZ, who is friends/in a partrnership/whatevs with me,..."

Takes a bit longer, sure. For me, the few extra words are well worth avoiding the possessive/ownership connotation, though.
Do you actually do that, though? Man, is that ever cumbersome. I can't even begin to imagine replacing "my friend" with "this person who is friends with me" on a regular basis. Humans are lazy, and that usually means saying things the quickest way possible. That's why people constantly end sentences with prepositions. "The man to whom I'm married" is like 3 times as many words as "my husband." That's just inefficient!

As a side note, I'm pretty certain my mom would be mortified if I started referring to her as "the woman who is in a mother-daughter relationship with me." In fact, to me, that whole approach seems to actually take away from the connectedness. My husband is no longer special, he's just some guy who happens to have his name listed on the same marriage certificate as mine.
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