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Old 08-12-2013, 11:17 PM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Originally Posted by InfinitePossibility View Post
Our conversation turned to our old age and who will look after us? We have all in slightly different ways chosen lifestyles that mean we are unlikely to have the safety net of family around us.
I think about this quite often - as my career often puts me in a position to see what happens to our elderly when there IS no-one to "look after" them. From the other side - I watched it unfold when my father and aunt had to step up to the plate for their (child-less, widowed) great-aunts.

MrS and I are lucky enough to have nieces/nephews who are being raised by smart, responsible, ethical parents. And we will be financially in a position to afford decent care - so hopefully will not be a huge burden on them. I think about Dude though...estranged from his (dysfunctional) family. WE are his family now - by choice. There are no legal protections for him, though. What if our families don't understand that he IS family? Unless we have put plans in place...scary.

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (23+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (4+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
Lotus: "it's complicated"
SLeW: platonic girlfriend + BFF
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

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