I appreciate the rally, but he certainly was not attempting to control me. In fact he is quite supportive of my feelings, he just cannot participate. He is a child of a very dysfunctional divorce and divorced himself, so I think he has convinced himself that a traditional relationship is the ideal condition for him... Even though it hasn't worked out for him yet. I'm not out to convince him otherwise.
Obviously things on this end are far more complicated than I will describe in my forum post número uno, but my intention is not to vilify my partner and I apologize if that was the vibe I gave off. We are still partners, just of the nonromantic variety.