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Old 02-11-2010, 01:51 PM
GroundedSpirit GroundedSpirit is offline
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Originally Posted by FitChick View Post
I'm not suggesting for one moment that you head full steam into a relationship with this man,take your time,explore,talk,ask,read and get to know him as a person,as a friend...
I like this a lot. I kind of struck home with me because it's often the first way we describe our relationship when people are asking about us. We often open with "we're best friends" and then the rest follows.
There's something about what most people seem to feel about real, close friendship that .....takes an edge off ? Maybe it downplays certain old dynamics and expectations ? Hard to describe.
But there's a certain dynamic in a deep friendship that we respect & embrace fondly. An understanding that although we might not see eye-to-eye on everything, have different tastes in things etc, that when the chips are down none of that matters. We just know we're going to stand together, be there for each other.
If any relationship can grow from that foundation and KEEP it intact you can get through most anything together. But something about tagging the relationship with other labels - marriage, lovers,BF,GF - you name it seems to cast shadows over the friendship. Somehow, it and all the wonderfully positive things that made it work get lost.


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