Good questions, and I'm unsure of the answers. Particularly since she isn't comfortable with the relationship in the first place.
On a different note, I have something I'm going to first ask Seven and then tell Woodsmith. This past week (and just so you know Woodsmith doing this has been an ongoing thing in our relationship, even when we weren't living together and I'd see him just on weekends) he has spent every night sleeping on the couch rather than coming to bed. So honestly because of that, and the fact I'm sick of sleeping alone, if Lamian isn't home I'm going to just stay with Seven.
Woodsmith: My husband
Merry: Tig's wife/slave
N8: Merry's boyfriend/owner
Elle: N8 girlfriend
Ruby: Part of the Leather Family
Logan: Leather Sir in the Family
Arc: Logan's boy
Holly: Leather family
K: Holly's sub