Originally Posted by london
An open relationship does not automatically mean a fully polyamorous relationship. The OP has said more than once that polyamory wasn't their agreement, an open relationship with no specifics was what they agreed. Now they've basically found that she wants polyamory and he wants something more like monogamy if not monogamy itself. Neither party has lied or mislead the other here. He hasn't backtracked. They just obviously thought they were on the same page about what the rules and boundaries were. I'm not of the opinion that any relationship that restricts outside emotional availability has control and ownership issues.
Yes, all true. We started a general open relationship, thought we were on the same page, & realized we're obviously not on the same page...now we are trying to figure out the specifics.