Originally Posted by london
I resent the reframing of a need for something closer to monogamy as a control or ownership issue. The only thing it definitely is in this case is an incompatibility. Poly people can be too quick too negatively label the symptoms of one being monogamous and turn them into character flaws.
When it happens in the context of a monogamous relationship it may be quite normal. When it comes up and is dealt with in an open relationship then it may be a quirk and/or an incompatibility. When it's used to guilt-trip a partner in what has been established as an open relationship for years it becomes a character flaw.
You, of course, are entitled to resent that or not as you wish.