Originally Posted by willowstar
I understand that my decision affected my husband, and he was not happy with it. However, this is one of those areas in which it's tricky, I think, to say to people that they should just give their partners what they need in a relationship. When people say that to me, it feels very much like "Just give him what he wants honey, and keep your man happy..." Very 1950's "how to please your Husband" mentality. Yuck.
I totally agree with you on this point. I despised the idea that I should have sex whether I wanted to or would enjoy it simply because "I was supposed to/he wanted it." It turned sex into a commodity, something to be traded so I could have some free time or go out without him turning into a puddle or acting like a jerk.