After a couple of months of unsuccessful OkC dates, I've met a great poly couple who's part of a local group. I've dated her (the wife, Y) a few times, and things are going great, we're very compatible. Y has other loves as well, and I might be dating her other GF soon.
Our poly worlds intersected because I was (and am still sporadically) dating CC, who has been long term with J. And Y has been dating J for a short while now. She messaged me and asked if the other girl I was dating is CC, and we laughed because it's a small poly world.
Anyway. I went from nothing, to being part of something. And loving it.