... and some thoughts about dating, which I want to write down here to remind myself later.
Next time I start to date someone I want to take things sloooooowww.
Become friends first. Not share my whole life story on the second date. Spend time together, get to know each other. Making suspense, attraction without immediately acting on it, a part of the whole process. Not think of guys as my seriously committed long term lover straight away.
I think this is what I did with BGuy.. it seems to be working so far. We became friends, and now we occasionally see each other and have great talks and great sex. I'm not kidding myself, I would love a more involved relationship, at some point (not with him). But I really need to keep my dreams and expectations in check next time I meet someone.
early forties, straight.
the guys: Ren - husband; Curlz - bf of 2 years, Brig - bf of 7 months; Knight - non-sexual bf; MrBrown - it's complicated
Ren's girls: Lou - gf of 2 years, Liz - very new gf