Originally Posted by eklctc
Currently, my ideal relationship would probably consist of four people. I, along with my two male partners, would be primary in each other's lives (men don't necessarily have to be primary to each other but I would definitely condone it) and my one female partner would be secondary
But you said you were dating a married man? So....is he more of a dating situation until you find the structure that works right for you?
Or would your two male partners (not sure if this is theoretical or not) both have other primaries of their own? And there would be another woman (I guess with a primary of her own) who is secondary to yourself and the other two men (and possibly the men's partners)?
That sounds similar to what I'm seeking, only I personally prefer everyone to be on a primary relationship status (and thus feel equally committed and responsible to the "polyship")