Bookbug-we are similar. We dont wear signs saying we are poly. But we live in a small community. People see me holding hands or kissing one or the other guy in public and questions arise.
But usually we just say open or alternative relationship style because its too much wasted time trying to explain poly to every random store clerk who inquires.
If they are closer acquaintances I will add, "google polyamory".
Gives them food for thought.
But it is certainly not secret. Anyone who doesnt know is blatantly trying to avoid the info. Cause its all over fb and our social network of friends most of whom are mono.
"Love As Thou Wilt"