Originally Posted by redpepper
We happen to be really out there in the community and that community seems to be wanting to fuck everyone... it's just the nature of it it seems. Those who are into that need to be out there so that they can get together with others. When you are in a more closed relationship structure, as we are, then just by proxy there is not the need to be out there in the poly world.
That might be a characteristic of your community, but I've noticed and known lots of people who are "out there" and visible in the poly world because they feel the need to be connected to a community or they feel a need to create and care for such communities, not necessarily out of a need broaden their hook up pool. I've also noticed that this doesn't correlate to whether they are in a more open or closed relationship structure. It just has to do with what the community means to them, regardless of their relationship structures.