I will use them when speaking of no one specific-as in drawing out a picture of what any given type of relationship is to me.
BUT I don't have "secondary" sexual relationships. If I am sexual with someone-they aren't secondary to me.
I HATE when people ask me about "my secondary". I answer "I don't have one".
I in fact don't even like the word "boyfriend" (it doesn't bother me to be called GG's girlfriend though), because it suggests that there is less importance to that relationship than there is with Maca who is my "husband".
Can't stand the whole heirarchy b.s.
"Love As Thou Wilt"