Oh I get it now. I used to wonder about a lot of things in relationships. As an example I have a freind who is heavily into BDSM. He is a Master and has a very committed submissive. He is very intense and at first it disturbed me until I realized she wanted this and was healthy in it. We are very comfortable friends now because I accept they are both
happy in this. If you, as an adult are healthy in it, I am fine with that.
Thanks for clarifying