I wasn't talking about spanking a child. I meant a HOH disciplining his partner/wife. I know there are a lot of people who think it is abuse of some form but it's so much more then that. It's hard to explain to others, like poly is to some. I was married for 11 years to a man who wanted a mom and I was the HOH and very much turn inside. I'm happily divorced now for 12 years now.
The DD and HOH thing is one reason why I tend to keep quiet and lurk, I was open to my family about my beliefs and now outcasted..LOL but that's life I guess..
I'm interested in the poly I guess due to the love that they have to share and wanting to be part of a family..does that make sense to you?