Willow, thanks kinda my point. I do use condoms with him...but if he's going to keep going unprotected with her while she's with untested guy, I might say no oral. Sure his wife is using condoms with that other dude but it still makes me uncomfortable.
For some others pointing out my husband is untested...he's never been with an untested person, and I'm the only person he has ever (I mean ever) exchanges fluids with and im clean as of a month ago
Also to clarify, im not asking his wife and her new man to do or not do stuff, I was asking my boyfriend and her (which I realize some see as unreasonable) also, he hasn't answered me
keep on keeping on