Originally Posted by sunnydee
However, you can't really make that decision for your partner, imo, and, really, you are two distinct adults, so what your partner does really doesn't reflect on you.
Wouldn't it be nice if it were true that one's partners actions don't really reflect on oneself? I think they do!
If my co-workers were to see my husband out on a date, they would likely think he was having an affair. They would probably have strong feelings about this, and apply those feelings to me. Maybe they would tell me, maybe not. Even if I told them that my HB had my blessing, many of my co-workers and clients would believe that I condone unethical behaviour, and my credibility would go down the toilet.
Yeah, it's totally crappy, but in some professions, it matters what the dominant culture THINKS of you.