Can I ask this Mono, how did you get involved? Were you raised in a poly family or was it something you just knew you were into? My family is Catholic and growing up I knew of no one into this lifestyle. I guess that's the main reason I'm confused. I'm also into DD and HOH relationships another thing my family is totally against and a main reason why I'm an outcast now but, that's another story. I did start talking to another couple from a different group but, it lead nowhere thanks to my own doing.