Originally Posted by RainyGrlJenny
Why on earth are you dating someone who goes out of his way to tell you hurtful things, and to stir up the waters between metamours?
I don't think your problem is the wife, it's your jerkface boyfriend.
I have to concur. When we started this whole poly-shebang, there were some hurtful things said by my husband about my boyfriend. I didn't repeat them.
It may be unreasonable to expect her to like you. That can't be answered without knowing what is being said to her about you and knowing her.
But I damn sure would be questioning a lover who was repeating trash talk to me....