Why on earth are you dating someone who goes out of his way to tell you hurtful things, and to stir up the waters between metamours?
I don't think your problem is the wife, it's your jerkface boyfriend.
- Moonlight, single, leans monogamous, girlfriend since 6/2012
- Punk, married guy, poly, FWB since 9/2011 with an emphasis on the "F"
- No longer lives with ex-boyfriend Fly (1/2006 - 12/2013, my introduction to nonmonogamy, ultimately amicable breakup), and his 11-year-old son Kiddo