Thread: Hello :) Poly q
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Old 08-02-2013, 11:05 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Originally Posted by spicefox View Post
... possibly use protection with the "secondaries". (we don't use condoms, never have)
Originally Posted by spicefox View Post
i feel like i dont have any control and that the primary has a little bit more. especially as she doesnt know about me.
Wait a sec - I missed the no condoms bit the first time around.

So...he is having unprotected sex with you AND she doesn't even KNOW about you and you think SHE has more control? This guy is playing both of you - stop letting him (and go get yourself STI tested - there's a good likelihood that he is playing others as well).

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (together 21+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (together 3+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS
TT: poly bi male, married to Lotus, FB with JaneQ
VV and MsJ: bi-women with male primaries, LTR LDR FWBs to JaneQ

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