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Old 07-31-2013, 03:27 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Join Date: Jan 2012
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Don't know what hole in BG's psyche that last post came from...

More relevant questions -

Are you poly?

Is she poly?

Is he poly?

(he, apparently, knows about you, and you know about him...good start!)

What kind of conversations have you had with you GF about what type of open-relationship model you are participating in? i.e. she had to call and ask if it was "okay" for her to go out to dinner with him. Is this an expectation of yours? Was she just confirming that this was within the confines of the relationship agreements that you have negotiated already?

"Going to Dinner" in my world doesn't require permission. "Going to Dinner" is not, necessarily a "date" in my rulebook - I go to dinner with LOTS of people for various reasons - not always romantic. It would be a good idea to sit down with you GF and discuss your expectations and assumptions are.

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (24+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (6+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost lover-friend to me, FWBs to SLeW
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
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