Forgive-mental choice for self. Doesn't require returning privilege of relationship to him again.
I had a long term affair, got pregnant, aborted baby and then got caught.
It was awful for everyone. It was wrong.
But-I was serious about making amends (note-NOT just saying I'm sorry).
I did a LOT of work on myself.
I made restitution where possible.
I gave years of time for trust to be rebuilt.
We are now a poly family.
"Love As Thou Wilt"