I dont have to STAY in the basement ever really, we just wanted to ensure we all had designated space in the house that is ours. Thats all. I am sure I will be in either his bed or my son's (nightmares, illnesses etc) often. I think there is a level of comfort in knowing you have a space that is yours to retreat to/relax in when you need it, thats all.
Hopefully that made sense
"If you love a flower, don't pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies & it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation." -Osho