I agree, GS, this topic is a really good one. I know of one poly family with kids that are "in the know" - two of them are already members here, so I hope they will weigh in with their own experiences.
Maybe a mod could move this to the General Discussion board where it might be more visible, since this really is a relevant topic to poly....
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