Originally Posted by YouAreHere
My only advice here is to sit and talk with your wife and make sure you both realize that this could take a while - that you may feel like you're revisiting old wounds, and it may be absolutely frustrating, but you may need to revisit them that many times in order to work on healing them.
And to expand on that, be honest with yourself. You may not be poly. You could be monogamous and to simply accept that. Not everyone fits into this world and if they can't poly will simply feel like torture.
And.. in the end, to not beat yourself up over that potential fact.
People in poly tend to forget that there are monogamous people.. and that they have rights to be themselves.
Best of luck on your discovery and whatever path you end up navigating to