Originally Posted by YouAreHere
To be fair, if this is someone's first experience in Poly, they may well not realize what their expectations are, or what the reality will be. It's a completely different animal from what they may be used to, and I know I went through my own growing pains in my relationship as well.
Ignorance of how something works, and trying to muddle your way through it is hard as hell, for everyone involved (been there, done that), but it's certainly not malicious. The fact that the OP is here talking and asking questions is a good sign.
Totally agreed! It is also very common for people to not really understand why they feel as they do when they are upset. When I am the one who is muddled, I appreciate people asking me pointed questions as it helps me get to the bottom of the issue.