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Old 07-27-2013, 03:03 AM
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Originally Posted by bookworm View Post
. . . Keith and I do have sex, but its not often, a couple of times a month maybe. But I miss that intimacy with Keith. I miss being close to him and being touched by him. Any time I have ever tried to discuss it with him he just gets angry. It makes me sad.
You can still share intimate touch without it being sexual - give each other massages, take baths together, dancing, cuddling, etc. Maybe try to rekindle some of that, slowly, without focusing on sex. And when you feel the need to talk, don't bring it up like there's a problem. Instead, just express what you like and what feels good, as in, "Oh, I love how you rub my shoulders."
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