From your post:
- I am romantically attracted to Nata.
- I want to see her. And this is something I can invite her to.
- I'm seeing Ramati. I enjoy her company when I see her but I don't crave seeing her. I find her hard to connect to.
- I think it would be a bad idea to invite them both.
- I prioritize Nata.
- I would rather be seen as "with" Nata than Ramati by my friends.
- Could invite just Nata.
- Could stop driving yourself crazy thinking all over the map.
- This is not the only party you will ever have.
- If you aren't feeling all that for Ramati and just keep her around "to have sex with, to not be 'alone' by myself. and because dumping her makes me a dick" -- you could examine why you feel this way / do this.
Esp if it prevents you from pursuing Nata in the way you wish. You can be a single polyamorous person, you know.
Last edited by GalaGirl; 07-26-2013 at 07:46 PM.