Originally Posted by Monogamish
they came at poly from the swinging/nonmonogamy side. This rule is a remnant of navigating poly from that end of things, apparently.
That certainly sounds like a potential point of growth. Hopefully if she dumps the VETO power it will be to grow emotionally - not just to sate the desires of the people around her. One would be a very good sign, the other would be a temporary reprieve with a difficulty to come at a later date.