Nycindie makes an excellent point.
Maybe try thinking compassionately about why she made those insecure requests - and they are a sign of her insecurity.
She is coming into your territory. No comfort of what is familiar to her - except your joint lover. So she is feeling a bit clingy.
Her fear of meeting you. What if you don't like her?
And you know given the distance which makes their times together infrequent, it is not out of line that she asked to be given the lion's share of the time with him - but not all. However, I imagine she is thinking to herself, here I am in a strange town, in a strange house, so how the hell I am I going to entertain myself if he goes out with her?
I am betting when you do meet, all of those fears will be washed away on both sides.