Originally Posted by westVan
they see eachother x number nights a week so I should have X number of nights a week - to be "Equal and Fair". I don't want that and dont need that
I think your approach to relating "I'll manage my life and you manage yours" is fantastic; a diamond in the rough. However, don't forget that part of managing your own life is to decide who you want to associate with and what treatment you will endure.
What I mean is, if you have communicated "Hey, I don't want your relationship advice. I'm sure you mean well but you need to drop that shit" and they still insist upon butting in to your life... what are you prepared to do about that?
1. Stop complaining about it and learn to live your life by their rules
2. Extricate yourself from their lives to whatever degree necessary