Thanks for the clarification - I wasn't sure if you meant that a metamour's time constraints were impacting your relationship, but this sounds much different.
I may be mono, but isn't part of having a poly relationship embracing the variety and differences among your paramours? If my partner doesn't like camping, I could theoretically date someone else who DOES like it. I don't see the point in asking everyone to fit the same mold.
Mono. Divorced, two kids (DanceGirl, 13; and PokéGirl, 11), two cats, one house, many projects.
My partner. Poly. In relationships with me, Xena, and Noa.
Poly. In relationships with Chops and Noa, and dating others.
Married, Poly. In relationships with Chops and Xena (individually).
Blog thread: A Mono's Journey Into Poly-Land (or, "Aw hell, there's no road map?!")
Slightly more polished blog with a mono/poly focus: From Baltic to Boardwalk