I had a novelette written, but it all boiled down to this one sentence:
When something hurts, it is much easier to want to take the source of the pain away, rather than take the time to work through it.
I found it more valuable to do the work needed to get through my envy and insecurity (not that I'm done by a longshot), but I can understand the pain being too great for some.
Mono. Divorced, two kids (DanceGirl, 14; and PokéGirl, 11), two cats, one house, many projects.
My partner. Poly. In relationships with me, Xena, and Noa.
Poly. In relationships with Chops and Noa, and dating others.
Married, Poly. In relationships with Chops and Xena (individually).
Blog thread: A Mono's Journey Into Poly-Land (or, "Aw hell, there's no road map?!")
Slightly more polished blog with a mono/poly focus: From Baltic to Boardwalk