Thank you for the input, and the ideas. I had never considered some form of legal council. It might be worth looking into. I don't know that it would help, seeing as how our powers that be look at poly, but it can't hurt to see.
Whisper, I DO like your idea with the guys. I think I will do that next time. We are very open and honest about our relationship, as long as his mother is not around that is. LOL. She is quite old, and you can imagine this would not settle well with her at all. At her age none of us want to upset her, so we just keep it quiet. As far as she is concerned, I am simply my girlfriend's BFF that enjoys traveling with them.