Hi Northhome how are you
Yes we will try to not be to hard on ourselves..
Hopefully i have answered above a bit on how we progress a bit still very scary though for all parties...
I would tell her that her happiness was important and i would be here for when ever she needed me but i cannot fill full all your her needs and i would still love her even when she was with someone else.. But that didnt help her
And yes took your advice and found a mediator and she eventually began to talk to us so that was a good idea.. Thanks
I did count to 10 and made that serious move in response to Natja above i hope it will help
Thanks again your advice is muchly appreciated..