Ok so I can see not many of you can see my side...Like I said I was in the same situation. And I admitted I was the controlling one....But there is far more to the situation....It was not only me who wanted me there...My husband refused to be intimate without me...He says it made him feel like he was cheating...But anyways like I said it is hard on all people involved...But I will stand by what I said...If you are willing to settle for that there is nothing wrong....I mean do what makes you happy. Not what everyone says doesn't make sense or is a disaster. Who knows this relationship might turn out to be the best one and might turn into a life commitment. Good luck And I am out of this judgmental convo.....