Jlynn, please believe that there are so many people that can relate to how you're feeling. I'm incredibly self conscious and can hardly believe that my husband and now my bf enjoy my body. I'm overweight, hairy, and have acne everywhere, not exactly the most desirable woman and yet I have not one, but two men who adore me.
It's alright to expect a little reassurance from your husband, I love the idea of noting all the compliments that you recieve, great idea Lemondrop!
Please believe that your sexuality is so much more than your appearance. Sensations, sounds, feelings, there's so much to explore with more than just your eyes.