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Old 07-18-2013, 11:05 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Originally Posted by PolyPaulie View Post
I wanted to explain the great variety polyamorous relationships come in to a friend of mine. And then I thought, 'What better way than from the horses mouth?"
...or directing them to read one of the websites devoted to this topic....

What is "polyamory" to you?

Ethical non-monogamy with a focus on actual relationships not sex.

Tell me about your relationships.

See sig for short version, read "Journey" blog for long version.

Do you have primaries/secondaries?

From a practical view - yes. From a theoretical view - no. We can develop any relationship to the degree that that relationship is ready for - but you don't jump from "dating partner" to "spouse" in one fell swoop.

Everyone equal?

No two people are "equal" - people, and relationships, are unique.

Open or closed?


V? Many?

Currently a Vee - could change in the future - N, W, Y, network - no plan.


Long story, but "no"

What are the problems you personally face and how do YOU make it work?

Early on problems with time/attention management and and mistaken idea that fair means equal (it doesn't - over that now). Now just regular relationship stuff - we make it work by living it every day.

Why does polyamory work for you?

Because I love two people.

Originally Posted by PolyPaulie View Post
Share anything you think is relevant.
See my blogs on this site.

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (23+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (4+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi married female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS (1+ years)
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
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