DarkHorse, sorry to hear that you are having such a tough and complicated time of it right now. My only advice would be to do what you can to get your life stable again, so that you can work from some sort of point of calmness.
It's quite possible that people getting to know you right now might not be interested in dating someone with such turmoil in their lives. That's not a reflection on you, but the fact that it would probably only add to the drama. if she has a kid, then that may just apply even more so.
I wish you a more calm road ahead.
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