Sneac-I so agree!
Maca's mom was like that-demanding it be her place for Christmas and her way with her invites being strict on who was invited.
This was before we agreed to a poly dynamic-but her demands simply didn't work for me. So-I didn't go.
It ruffled a LOT of feathers the first couple of years. But honestly-we've enjoyed our holidays SO MUCH MORE without all of those demands. Maca's brother regularly tells us how miserable it is jumping through her hoops-even though he continues to do so after all of these years. We just shake our heads and tell him to quit jumping.
"Love As Thou Wilt"